The holiday season is all about joy, togetherness, and celebration—or at least that’s what the movies tell us. In reality, it’s also navigating awkward small talk, trying to keep the peace, and figuring out how to make your time together meaningful. If you’re hoping to connect on a deeper level this year (or survive a family dinner), here are some tips that might help!
1. Prioritise Presence Over Perfection
It’s easy to get caught up in making everything look Instagram-worthy, but people don’t connect over perfect table settings or flawless playlists. They connect over moments—even messy ones. So if the roast gets a little overdone or someone brings up that story from 2008, let it slide. Sometimes the best memories are the ones you never planned.
2. Ask Questions That Matter
Forget the standard “How’s work?” Instead, try questions that spark actual conversation:
“What was a highlight of your year?”
“What’s one thing you’re looking forward to?”
“If you could have a holiday anywhere in the world, where would it be?”
These kinds of questions make it easier to move past surface-level chit-chat and into real connection territory—no small talk required.
3. Really Listen
It sounds simple, but active listening is like a superpower. Put down your phone, make eye contact, and absorb what the other person is saying. You’d be surprised how often people just want to feel heard. It might also make you the most popular person at the table (well, after whoever brings dessert).
4. Steer Clear of Hot Topics
Some subjects are better left untouched during the holidays. If things start to veer into tension-filled territory, it’s okay to tactfully redirect. Say something like, “Let’s save that for another time. What’s everyone’s favourite holiday movie?” It’s amazing how polarising the Die Hard debate can be—in a fun way.
5. Do Something Together
Activities are a great way to bring people closer without forcing conversation. Cook a meal, play a game, or set up a friendly gingerbread house competition. Even if someone ends up using a hot glue gun, you’ll walk away with memories that make everyone smile… eventually.
6. Don’t Forget About You
It’s hard to connect with others if your own cup is empty. Take a little time to recharge—whether that’s going for a walk, reading, or sneaking away for a power nap. Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s how you make sure you’re ready for all the festive chaos.
7. Lean Into the Festive Spirit
Whether it’s wearing a ridiculous holiday sweater, blasting Mariah Carey, or just sharing a laugh with the people around you, let yourself embrace the silliness of the season. Sometimes connection comes from simply letting go and enjoying the moment.
At the end of the day, connection during the holidays isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about showing up, being present, and creating moments that matter.
And if all else fails, there’s always pie.
As usual, if you need a little help, we are one call away.
Michelle Ng
Research & Development Lead
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